Sex tourism or Rape? Couchsurfing horror story in Vilnius, Lithuania. A negative reference about sexsurfing that hides many things…

The aggressor

Twenty minutes of terror in Vilnius, the calm capital of Lithuania.
This man invites you to dinner and while being polite…

One of those two is the suspected
One of the two men is the accused of the crime, the face of the suspected is partially covered.

This is the feedback Giedre, a couchsurfing member, wrote for the guy in the above picture:

Giedre Birzyte Reference - Couchsurfing - Luca Gentile
“GIRLS, BE CAREFUL! I am putting negative reference, so you would go and check the neutral references, before you decide to stay, host or meet him. I’ve met him shortly, he invited me for a dinner to his place. 20 minutes was enough to understand that it is better to RUN fast from this guy. Pure intuition and no evidence, but I am glad I did not stay for evidence.”

Here he is cooking, preparing the trap
The guy is in the middle

We don’t have evidence yet, but thanks to intuition, our alert friend Giedre, could get away fast from him, lucky. Cause potentially, he could have done really horrific things…
Reports like this are quite useful for our community, we get informations and we know whom to isolate, or eventually report to Police.
Let’s hope many people will be so smart, alert and investigative like Giedre to report as much as possible those cases.

In the middle the suspected guy, while eating with other couchsurfer
In the middle the suspected guy, while eating with other couchsurfers –  Host Erwin Rossen – Eindhoven, The Netherlands

Or not?

How many are our own mental fantasies and how many of those are matching the reality?

How many of those we thought were serial killer did really kill?
Do we watch maybe too many horror movies?

We are so scared and warned about strangers, but do we know that many crimes are happening within the family circles?
Do we know that it’s more likely that our best friend or partner is going to do something bad, than a stranger?

In the USA people continuously kill each other by mistake, they have all easy reach to weapons and simply because they are ‘scared’ they fire instinctively… maybe on their neighbour

Here he fakes to be asleep before attacking the polish victims - CS Host Patrik  - Belgium
Here he maybe fakes to be asleep before attacking the victims, three polish CSers – CS Host Patrik – Belgium

I don’t think that not knowing someone is a reason why this person is potential serial killer.
There is bad people, but is not because we don’t know them that they are bad.

The creepy guy is eating while other couchsurfers are scared of him
The creepy guy is eating while other couchsurfers are scared of him, ready to run away. Or maybe the one standing could be his crime partner –  Couchsurfers Andrea Taurino and Rafael Oliveira – Helsinki, Finland

You wanted maybe now the continue of the story? – actually the start, cause we don’t have a start yet.
Righ!  I will write it, also because the guy who got the feedback is me (yes, I am a monster and I didn’t even realize it)

Here the horror story continues…

Here a potential victim is drinking some unknown drinks
Here a potential victim is drinking some unknown substances with closed eyes

“I am putting negative reference, so you would go and check the neutral references… I’ve met him shortly, he invited me for a dinner to his place, 20 minutes… it’s better to run…pure intuition and no evidence” – Giedre says (the victim)
What kind of reference is that? An invite to see other references? It’s better to run? run instead of…? walking? cycling? Intuition of what? Why she went to my place if I have such alarming neutral feedbacks? – I say (the monster).

This is a proof of the offender intention to arm, his expression is enough to condemn him.
This is a proof of the offender intention to harm, his expression is enough to condemn him. The victim is not aware of it, still smiling – CS Meeting in The Netherlands.

Twenty minutes of horror:

Giedre was supposed to host me, she accepted my couch-request but finally I got a good offer on Airbnb where I could have my own apartment in Vilnius (soviet union style) for a superlow price.
I invited her to have some food at my place to be thankful to her.
It took me efforts to make the food (I wanted to cook something good) and make the place look nice.

First ten minutes:

I noticed that Giedre was already behaving odd talking about the neighborhood where I had the apartment (which is the Naujininkai district in Vilnius) saying it was a place where criminals live, doing a bit Columbo style.
As she arrived, her inspection started to my apartment, almost like mr Holmes, she asked me detailed informations such as where I had this place from, if I moved the furniture myself, etc… she even looked inside personal closets and I told her: “I don’t even know what you will find in those closets cause this is not my place and I have not opened those closets myself to respect the privacy of my host” – then she stopped doing inspector gadget and started eating.

Second ten minutes:

Except her ‘high level curious behavior’, everything seemed to be back to normality once we started to eat.
I didn’t feel really offended by her previous behaviour cause I have met any kind of persons in my trips (even though someone else may get offended, especially from the inspection in the personal closets).
She was seating in front of me, about two meters far from me, on another couch, the table was in the middle of us, she was always asking quite odd and personal questions but less Clouseau style this time.
I had some bad experiences in Riga not long ago, I was starting to talk about it to her, saying: “in Riga some criminal girls tried to drug me in order to rob me…” – when Giedre stood up, said: “I want to go” – and left.

This all happened in no more than half-hour in total, no longer. Absolutely nothing more than this happened.

I felt really down, I could not understand why she did it, I got almost depression for a couple of days (especially after reading her comment) thinking something is wrong with me.

Classic pose of a perverted half naked serial killer, pretending to cook, before attacking the victim
Classic pose of a perverted half naked curly hairy serial killer, pretending to cook, searching some knifes, before attacking the CouchSurfing victim

After some facebook discussion with many people about this event I guess that one of those applies:
– Giedre is psychologically not stable;
– She feels some kind of feminist empathy for the criminal girls of Riga;
– She is totally disrespectful and has random hate for men;
– Giedre is a friend of someone who left me a neutral reference;
– No other men have ever been so polite with her and she was shocked;
(it’s also possible that more than one of those applies)

Here the host prepares the trap, it's to against the host Thea, from Oslo.
Here the guy prepares the trap, it’s for  the CS host Thea Rostbakken, from Oslo, Norway.

In her mind being too polite is not normal and for her is equal to be creepy?

I wanted to write to Giedre, but from the moment I am like a monster to her eyes (by reading her reference) I prefer not to contact her. I also think she should be the one who has to write first, anyway I am open to friendly discussion (but without food this time). Maybe would be good also for her (for sure cheaper than a psycholog).

I will leave a negative feedback to her cause I feel quite uncomfortable with what she did and what she wrote.
I don’t find it fair: I was really polite, kind and respectful to her, I spent efforts to make the place look nice and for the food.
She accused me ‘in general’ just for no reason, just for her mental fantasies. I really would like to know what was going on in her mind and what girls should be careful of?

An attempt to poison a whole group of CSers, in Hungary, during CS  Couchsurfing Diamond Moon tour 2013 - http://www.evezzvelem.hu/ajanlasok_eng.php
An attempt to poison a whole group of CSers, in Hungary. Note the offender habit to be almost naked before the crime – during CS Couchsurfing Diamond Moon tour 2013 –
http://www.evezzvelem.hu/ajanlasok_eng.php

OK Giedre, you don’t know it cause you runned away after 20 min, but I tell you a secret about me, something few people know, something maybe I should feel ashamed of, something not just to make public in a post, something that may condemn people to death penalty in certain regimes, a fact that may not allow me to go back to my italian family, the evidence that you didn’t wait to discover:

I am a feminist too!
And I will help you to warn all the GIRLS about the danger that they may have with such a creepy man as I am. But I will be more specific then you.

Let’s shout out the hidden truth of me, my dark side:

The attacker behaving like a friendly pizza man, before his dark plans. CS host "Martina Piantina", Spain,
The attacker behaving like a friendly pizza man, before his dark plans (look at the knifes, why there? why in the kitchen? – Also on the nose there is some white powder, he was maybe  camouflaging cocaine for flour, typical technique) CS host “Martina Piantina”, Spain,

GIRLS , PAY ATTENTION TO ME!
I MAY INVITE YOU FOR DINNER, I MAY USE ITALIAN MANNERS: I MAY COOK HEALTHY ITALIAN FOOD FOR YOU, MAKE MY PLACE COZY, CLEAN AND, EVEN, I MAY BE GENTLE, FUNNY, RELAXED, FOOD ACROBATIC, POLITE AND RESPECTFUL TO YOU, AS GUEST AS WOMAN AND AS HUMAN BEING. GIRLS BE AWARE OF THIS.
Why not warning boys too? I do invite men as well at my place.
– Please Girls and Boys, Men and Women, Ladies and Gentlemen, if you don’t like the above mentioned behaviors don’t come to my place for dinner or, instead of running away, just tell me that you have important business to do and leave after five minutes, it’s more polite. At least in some cultures –

He even developed some skills in pizza flying, just to confuse the ideas of the eaters...
He has even developed some skills in pizza flying, just to confuse the ideas of the victims…

I avoid feeling too much offended or thinking of others as bad, but words are stones, and thanks to persons like Giedre, in the inquisition time (or maybe still in some countries), people was burned up FOR REAL just because of ‘PURE INTUITION’.

While the pizza flies he is thinking about his next victim - CS Guest Alessandro Colombi from Milan.
While the pizza flies he is thinking about his next victim – CS Guest Alessandro Colombi from Milan.

Here the final evidence of the crime, uncovered, a video of the maniac assaulter (me) with his CS host Margaret & Pati, in Helsinki, Finland:

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PS. In case Giedre may have felt some compassion and closeness to the criminal girls of Riga which I was talking about. To fully inform the readers, I post the story of the criminal Riga Bar-Girls Scam I was saying to Gidre just before her exodus:
https://travelthetheater.wordpress.com/2014/11/18/riga-european-capital-of-the-scam-culture-2014/?preview_id=293

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Finland, the country of rabbits, objective stereotypes

Tattoos, sauna, coffee,  smoking, alcohol, many trees around you and stone under your feet instead of soil.
Stereotypes or real characteristics of Finland?


It’s hard to draw a line between facts and personal mental representations, but one of the facts is that the Finnish nose is really peculiar, you can recognize it directly, the central part,  between the holes, is a bit large at the bottom part. Really funny and sweet.

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HYGIENE:

Toilet in Finland
A Finnish toilet

  

One of the things I learned, not in Finland, but in the Navy is how to sit on a wc,  now that I travel is quite useful.
To stay in topic of wc, I can say that toilets in Finland are amazing. The shower bidet is just divine, I suggest you to get to know it.

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RELATIONSHIPS IN FINLAND:

Finnish girls have a really particular way of walking, completely straight on their spine, they don’t move the head at all and they just point forward with their eyes, it looks almost like a march.

Finnish girls
Finnish girls in the street

Having contacts with finnish women I discover that loving and caring too much for a woman in Finland is equal to lose her, good to know.

Because in Finland women behave like man, I start to behave like a woman, now I see what means to reject someone interested in you and you to love accompanied by interest…

I did learn something from women in Finland, for example how to recognize mushrooms and how to down from stairs without light, I tried it several times and is curious and interesting. But I travel to find a reason why to stop traveling,  for the same reason I did one night stands.

To give a bottom line in a more martial ‘artistic’ way: “As a samurai prepares himself life long for death, I prepare myself for you to leave me”

Ah, you would think, why do you just write about girls?
Don’t worry, ‘par condicio”, I write about Finnish man as well, just continue reading…

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THE FINNISH FOREST:

Bicycle, tent and me
Bicycle, tent and me

Like fighters in the aikido do (to stay in theme of martial art), I use external power and energies to get my own benefit with no use of my internal power. Like in yin-yang,  I don’t lose my yang by using other’s yin.
This is for sure useful while sleeping in the forest….

The forest is one of the most comfortable place to sleep, there is nothing as magnificent as opening your eyes and seeing the green leaves on the trees, hearing birds and other animals peacefully living their life.

A domestic cat between the trees of the forest, he looked like a fish trying to walk, not even able to make few meters without hurting himself, how sad.

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CYCLING AND (RE)CYCLING

Bike diving
Food from the trash

Sometimes life is really paradoxical, in Finland, one of the richest country, I learn one of the thing done mostly by (non-economically)rich people: “dumpster diving”.
But actually the day there will be no food in the trash, or even better, no trash at all, there will be no poor neither.

Bicycle, snow and food
Bicycle, snow and food

During the Finnish winter I set down a new polar record, cycling at -18 for three hours in total, in one day!
While cycling daily at -25 for about one hour.

Joulupukki
The real Santa

As reward for my nordics efforts I also met Joulupukki, the real Santa, which lives in Lapland and nowhere else. I have to say that he was quite shy. To be shy is just a way of damaging yourself and get others dominate you.

This is something I think, which applies not just to Joulupukki’s, but to Finnish men as well, which I find quite shy. While the women are not shy at all.
We often have more fears by thinking than by acting,  when you think too much about actions you alienate yourself from the reality becoming frustrated and fearful.

What makes me less shy is also riding a bicycle, it makes me understand how to live and how to love:
If I ride knowing and thinking that my destination is close to me and I should arrive in short Time, I will be anxious, hurrying up and ruining the trip.
If I just ride without the thought of My destination, I enjoy My time.
The same for loving and living.

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HOW TO…….. WITH A CONDOM:

How to find an address in a rainy day in Finland with a smart phone and a condom,

Home addresses in Finland are not like in other countries, one house number may be the same for one, two, three, even more than ten buildings!
Then there are letters to identify buildings: a, b, c, d…¢, §, Z!
Then eventually there are more numbers coming after the letter … 1….2…3…5…8…1018586.
House numbers, letters, numbers…. And locals mostly don’t know where an address is if you ask.
I am in a shop, outside is raining and I really need to use my phone to find the address of my host.
I don’t have a map, I need my smart phone but is raining heavily and I have no way to protect my phone, I put a condom on my phone, people is looking weird to me…
They don’t understand the utility of my act. But it works!

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THEATER & CULTURE

There are societies where public social services are good, other countries have just local people that help each other, the worst place to be is where none of the two things is to find.

Traveling I just realize that the only way to get to know a country or a culture is to go there, nobody can explain you the feeling and the experience of visiting a place, no matter how extensive they talk or write about it. 

One thing that I hate are airports or airplanes, they make you move so fast that you don’t realize where you are, they all look the same.

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The Capital cities are often the least representative towns of the culture and traditions of a country. But still I spend much time in capitals, cause I am lazy and in big towns I find much more services…

ah, I almost forgot to mention: if Finland may be not the country of rabbits, at least Helsinki is!

In Helsinki, I have also met a really skillful artist,  Aino Kurki:

Aino Kurki

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