Twenty minutes of terror in Vilnius, the calm capital of Lithuania.
This man invites you to dinner and while being polite…
This is the feedback Giedre, a couchsurfing member, wrote for the guy in the above picture:
“GIRLS, BE CAREFUL! I am putting negative reference, so you would go and check the neutral references, before you decide to stay, host or meet him. I’ve met him shortly, he invited me for a dinner to his place. 20 minutes was enough to understand that it is better to RUN fast from this guy. Pure intuition and no evidence, but I am glad I did not stay for evidence.”
We don’t have evidence yet, but thanks to intuition, our alert friend Giedre, could get away fast from him, lucky. Cause potentially, he could have done really horrific things…
Reports like this are quite useful for our community, we get informations and we know whom to isolate, or eventually report to Police.
Let’s hope many people will be so smart, alert and investigative like Giedre to report as much as possible those cases.
How many are our own mental fantasies and how many of those are matching the reality?
How many of those we thought were serial killer did really kill?
Do we watch maybe too many horror movies?
We are so scared and warned about strangers, but do we know that many crimes are happening within the family circles?
Do we know that it’s more likely that our best friend or partner is going to do something bad, than a stranger?
I don’t think that not knowing someone is a reason why this person is potential serial killer.
There is bad people, but is not because we don’t know them that they are bad.
You wanted maybe now the continue of the story? – actually the start, cause we don’t have a start yet.
Righ! I will write it, also because the guy who got the feedback is me (yes, I am a monster and I didn’t even realize it)
Here the horror story continues…
“I am putting negative reference, so you would go and check the neutral references… I’ve met him shortly, he invited me for a dinner to his place, 20 minutes… it’s better to run…pure intuition and no evidence” – Giedre says (the victim)
What kind of reference is that? An invite to see other references? It’s better to run? run instead of…? walking? cycling? Intuition of what? Why she went to my place if I have such alarming neutral feedbacks? – I say (the monster).
Twenty minutes of horror:
Giedre was supposed to host me, she accepted my couch-request but finally I got a good offer on Airbnb where I could have my own apartment in Vilnius (soviet union style) for a superlow price.
I invited her to have some food at my place to be thankful to her.
It took me efforts to make the food (I wanted to cook something good) and make the place look nice.
First ten minutes:
I noticed that Giedre was already behaving odd talking about the neighborhood where I had the apartment (which is the Naujininkai district in Vilnius) saying it was a place where criminals live, doing a bit Columbo style.
As she arrived, her inspection started to my apartment, almost like mr Holmes, she asked me detailed informations such as where I had this place from, if I moved the furniture myself, etc… she even looked inside personal closets and I told her: “I don’t even know what you will find in those closets cause this is not my place and I have not opened those closets myself to respect the privacy of my host” – then she stopped doing inspector gadget and started eating.
Second ten minutes:
Except her ‘high level curious behavior’, everything seemed to be back to normality once we started to eat.
I didn’t feel really offended by her previous behaviour cause I have met any kind of persons in my trips (even though someone else may get offended, especially from the inspection in the personal closets).
She was seating in front of me, about two meters far from me, on another couch, the table was in the middle of us, she was always asking quite odd and personal questions but less Clouseau style this time.
I had some bad experiences in Riga not long ago, I was starting to talk about it to her, saying: “in Riga some criminal girls tried to drug me in order to rob me…” – when Giedre stood up, said: “I want to go” – and left.
This all happened in no more than half-hour in total, no longer. Absolutely nothing more than this happened.
I felt really down, I could not understand why she did it, I got almost depression for a couple of days (especially after reading her comment) thinking something is wrong with me.
After some facebook discussion with many people about this event I guess that one of those applies:
– Giedre is psychologically not stable;
– She feels some kind of feminist empathy for the criminal girls of Riga;
– She is totally disrespectful and has random hate for men;
– Giedre is a friend of someone who left me a neutral reference;
– No other men have ever been so polite with her and she was shocked;
(it’s also possible that more than one of those applies)
In her mind being too polite is not normal and for her is equal to be creepy?
I wanted to write to Giedre, but from the moment I am like a monster to her eyes (by reading her reference) I prefer not to contact her. I also think she should be the one who has to write first, anyway I am open to friendly discussion (but without food this time). Maybe would be good also for her (for sure cheaper than a psycholog).
I will leave a negative feedback to her cause I feel quite uncomfortable with what she did and what she wrote.
I don’t find it fair: I was really polite, kind and respectful to her, I spent efforts to make the place look nice and for the food.
She accused me ‘in general’ just for no reason, just for her mental fantasies. I really would like to know what was going on in her mind and what girls should be careful of?
OK Giedre, you don’t know it cause you runned away after 20 min, but I tell you a secret about me, something few people know, something maybe I should feel ashamed of, something not just to make public in a post, something that may condemn people to death penalty in certain regimes, a fact that may not allow me to go back to my italian family, the evidence that you didn’t wait to discover:
I am a feminist too!
And I will help you to warn all the GIRLS about the danger that they may have with such a creepy man as I am. But I will be more specific then you.
Let’s shout out the hidden truth of me, my dark side:
GIRLS , PAY ATTENTION TO ME!
I MAY INVITE YOU FOR DINNER, I MAY USE ITALIAN MANNERS: I MAY COOK HEALTHY ITALIAN FOOD FOR YOU, MAKE MY PLACE COZY, CLEAN AND, EVEN, I MAY BE GENTLE, FUNNY, RELAXED, FOOD ACROBATIC, POLITE AND RESPECTFUL TO YOU, AS GUEST AS WOMAN AND AS HUMAN BEING. GIRLS BE AWARE OF THIS.
Why not warning boys too? I do invite men as well at my place.
– Please Girls and Boys, Men and Women, Ladies and Gentlemen, if you don’t like the above mentioned behaviors don’t come to my place for dinner or, instead of running away, just tell me that you have important business to do and leave after five minutes, it’s more polite. At least in some cultures –
I avoid feeling too much offended or thinking of others as bad, but words are stones, and thanks to persons like Giedre, in the inquisition time (or maybe still in some countries), people was burned up FOR REAL just because of ‘PURE INTUITION’.
Here the final evidence of the crime, uncovered, a video of the maniac assaulter (me) with his CS host Margaret & Pati, in Helsinki, Finland:
Racketeering, extortion, scam, rip-off, coaxing, fraud, and aggressions by organized crime happen on daily base in the city center of Riga (Latvia), the old town. While locals are indifferent, not knowing it or even pro-crime.
Riga, the ‘capital of the Baltic’; capital of Latvia; european capital of culture 2014; or capital of scam?
Have you ever been in Riga? If you did, you are probably reading this too late.
RIGA AS TOURISTIC DESTINATION
Since late 2000 Riga became more and more popular as touristic destination, mostly because of cheap flights and it’s membership of the European Union.
Many tourists in group decided to visit this baltic city and to spend their weekends there. A good part of those groups were made of boys wanted to have their weekend of fun, adventures and good times.
Until 2012 there were ‘stag parties’ (bachelor celebration) taking place in Riga, where the visitors were quite loud and drunk in the streets. This may have contributed to have a local public opinion quite anti-visitors.
Tourists, visitors, travelers and expat report that in Riga they didn’t feel really welcome and that locals were not much friendly there. I have to say that I also had this feeling, even though I met few great local persons in Riga.
CRIMINALITY AND SCAM IN BARS IN RIGA
Since many years in Riga there are different kind of crimes happening against non-locals with the passivity or complicity of the local authority (police and politicians).
The most absurd thing is that those events happen always in the same places (bars) which are in the very city center, in the most touristic area, behind the freedom monument, with police and people all around it, walking few meters away.
Because of a general dislike that many locals have for tourists, nobody is really interested in trying to change what is happening in Riga.
But what is really happening?
I will tell you here my story of few days spent in the European Capital of…. Culture? 2014,
Walking to go to sleep during nighttime in the Kalku Iela I ask an information to a person passing, we talk friendly. She speaks perfectly Italian and behaves really friendly, I was surprised and we start a new conversation, I get invited by her to go to a bar, I say I don’t want to drink, but I would just just walk her there. Even if my intention was not to go and drink, the woman pushes me to get inside and orders two drinks while I am about to say goodbye, as I see she ordered, I sit to talk to her briefly saying that I have to cycle and I don’t want to drink alcohol.
After a small chat (around five minutes) the waiter brings the bill and the woman says I am suppose to pay, the bill was much higher than normal (maybe ten times), I ask to see the menu, the prices were matching the bill (which means that the scam in the bar is pre-organized). At the same moment the woman orders other extremely expensive drinks (cognac, champagne, etc.) asking me to pay.
I notice the woman does not even drink once from her glass, but she pushes me to drink all drinks, I find this suspicious, I ask her at least to try it, but when I take the drink and offer it to her, she jumps back, as it was something disgusting, pushing the glass to my lips instead.
By this I understand there are most probably drugs in the drink (remembering stories of travelers being drugged in Riga) and I refuse to drink closing my mouth, she pushes so hard that the drink gets on our clothes, the glass falls and gets broken on the floor. She says that I will have to pay everything, also for the glass, when I refuse she starts to aggress me first verbally then physically.
She becomes violent and throws the broken glass to me, which injures me, at that point I am surrounded by all the men that were in the bar (four persons, including waiter and a big bouncer which suddenly appeared) that immobilize and aggresses me, while the woman takes my jacket which was on the couch (with my phone and money in it), goes inside of the bar and throws it on the floor. Meanwhile the bouncer and ‘friends’ (waiter, owner?…) push me out, but I get free, get the jacket from the inside and run out, calling police. In the jacket there is no phone neither money anymore.
The police arrives after fifteen long minutes, one of the policeman was sleeping in the car, they are not surprised at all of hearing my story, they were mostly pissed off to have to work at that late time. We go back to the bar and everybody is still there, as nothing happened. Continuing to scam other tourists. The policemen friendly (but this is no joke, they were friendly to her) ask the woman to follow them in the car, she is smiling and not worried at all.
As we go to the police station I don’t get any report, the police asks me how long I will stay in Riga and where I live, treating me quite rudely, I show them on the map and on the calendar, and even the criminal woman is hearing and seeing all this, because she is just sitting next to me, smiling all the time.
I tell them that all this scam was completely organized and that I am not drunk at all, I am sober and I understood everything, they are not interested in listening to me, they call an ambulance and send me to the hospital.
In the hospital I see a man bleeding vigorously, blood on the floor and nobody taking care of him. He was trying to stop the blood with some toilet paper, but it was such long time that he was bleeding that the blood was drying out on his clothes and face. Almost complete indifference of the hospital staff towards this severely injured drunken old homeless, they left him almost die, while prioritizing my small injures with my disagree.
The day after, I go to the police station to ask for a copy of the report, they say that it will be shipped at my place, I am said I am not in right of getting any report in other ways.
I never received the report shipped.
Contacting the Police afterwards I get to know that there was no complaint made by the Police officers previously.
A second time, another attempt of scam happens, but really differently:
I meet a girl in a in a safe bar (one of the few safe bars in old town), she is really friendly and we just have a small talk, but we exchange facebook and the telephone number.
We keep contact by sms’s for about one week, almost daily we write to each other, she is really friendly and kind in the messages.
We arrange a meeting in a (safe)restaurant, we have a short walk and she asks me if she can stay at my place for the night, cause she lives far and didn’t want to take the bus to go home. I told her that she could stay.
As we arrived I made some food for her, which she was eating really fast.
She sat on the sofa putting her legs on my legs, she started to say she had a big family, not much money and that her sister was having cancer and needed a risky head-operation, behaving as an extremely pitiful person.
After that, almost crying, she asks me if she could borrow me some money. (I understood there was a trap)
As I refused, she started to send sms’s and making calls to someone, which she said was her boyfriend and that he was coming to rescue her from me, then she also said she would call police and say I attempted to rape her if I would not give her the money.
I was quite nervous, I really didn’t know what to do cause she knew where I lived (I was about to stay for a while in that place) and I was staying there alone, as an easy target.
My brain was burning with any kind of thoughts, I didn’t know who was coming, what those persons would do and I was new in that area, without any friends. I was thinking of all possible strategies in order to get her and myself out of the place.
Instinctively I take her bag and throw it outside, luckily it was open and all her stuff went on the street, she needed some time to collect it all, in the meantime I took all my stuff of value (this is the positive side of being a minimalist), locked the door twice and left as fast as possible.
I spent the night out, with some dutch boys that were keeping me company and offered me their place where to stay.
After that I had to leave the place and move on.
The day after another attempt of scam, yet different:
I met a group of girls in a safe bar, one of them tries to get my trust saying she is a student and in her group of girls there are a couple of friends working in the police (to make me feel safe, but she didn’t know that I don’t trust police at all). They look completely as normal girls, anybody would trust such a group and would be really hard for anyone to recognize anything suspicious in it.
We spend almost all the evening together, we dance and chat a lot. I notice she asks me some personal informations, such as where I live exactly (which street) and if I have friends or know people there.
While we dance I notice she starts to change her behaviour cause I don’t give her the informations she wants, I notice she is not really liking my company but she spends time with me and is committed in passing more time with me, I feel that is like a ‘job’ for her.
I ask her what she does and where she lives, and I notice that she speaks exactly the same way, with the same arguments, of the other two criminal girls I met previously.
She starts to tell me that she lives outside Riga and that she had rough time at home, she was looking for a place where to live in Riga city, asking me if I could host her.
I notice the scam immediately, I tell her to hold on, that I needed to go to the toilet.
I left the bar, I left Riga, I left Latvia, maybe forever.
I have read and heard personally a lot of those stories from people traveling in Riga, some people woke up on the beach half naked with no shoes, glasses, documents, money or bags! completely screwed up.
It looks like that many local people are not giving importance of what is happening or are even happy of those scams cause they don’t really like tourists or visitors (local say often: “if tourists comes here for cheap sex and beers, this is what they deserve”).
I don’t like to drink alcohol, I don’t like prostitutes neither strip clubs and I have never done a stag party in my life. But I don’t condemn who does like those things, there is nothing to be ashamed of feeling guilty for. If in a country they don’t want prostitution, strip clubs or stag parties, there are legal ways to stop it.
I have traveled in many places in the world, I have been in Africa (Ghana, Cameroon Ivory Coast) , Asia (Cambodia, Thailand…), Middle east and many dangerous european cities, I have been in the most crazy and unpredictable situations. But never something like this happened, never I felt so much in danger as in Riga that I was just not able to trust people anymore (for sure girls). The thing is that the most people I made friendship with, people that are now my best friends, I met them in the street. Asking me to not approach people in the street is like asking an italian to not talk with hands.
Certainly I have never experienced locals to be so proud of their criminals justifying those acts as “punishment to the bad tourists”.
Actually it’s quite the opposite, the target of those scams are often quiet, polite and respectful persons, which would not try to do to much with the girls, because most of the girls are in relationship with the mafia people from the bars and nobody of them wants that foreigners touch them.
The paradox is that this was happening since almost ten years and still happens now, in the same places, in the same bars and with the same passivity (or alliance) of the institutions. Now that you are reading this in Riga, in those bars, people is getting robbed and aggressed.
I would suggest to tourists to not go to Riga at all, Vilnius, Tallinn and many other cities offers you much more, people is much more welcoming and you are no target of such scams.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU VISIT RIGA:
Caution to bars and women
pay attention in the area of the “Freedom Monument” by night:
– LIVU laukums(square) ;
– KALKU iela(street), especially between 20-26;
– Kaļķu 22 – Krušovice Sporta bārs – this bar changes his name every few months
There are places where often WOMEN APPROACH you quite easily in the street (or inside the bar) and propose you to drink.
Those bars are ruled by organized crime, the will eventually try to:
– Make you PAY EXTREMELY high BILLS, give the incorrect change and even in some cases force you to take money out on your bank card/credit card, stealing eventually the codes of the latter;
– Drug you and STEAL ALL you have (eventually shoes and glasses too);
– AGGRESS you if you complain;
Calling police can be helpful, it may help against aggressions, but police will not do more, they are all aware of the situation, but don’t stop the crime from the roots, there are maybe some reason why police don’t act strongly against those bars.
Pay extra attention if you are ALONE or DRUNK.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE THE SCAM:
They develop and improve their techniques daily and are professional.
Is quite hard to recognize them, nearly every woman or girl could be a scam in Riga.
Few things that makes you recognize them:
1) Fast interest in you
They will start to be friendly after short you met them, even before.
But they will not forcely approach you first, their technique is evolving, they know how to behave to make you approach them (maybe they smile, look at you or just stand next to you), like “normal” girls would do.
2) Extremely friendly and good company
They are trained to have nice conversations with you and they will be agree in almost anything you say in the beginning.
3) No French Kiss
Even if the behave flirty, they will not allow you to do more than giving them a small kisses, touching legs or back. They will become quite disgusted and disturbed if you try to do more. After having tempted you and behaved bitchy they may even call Police if you try be just romantic, and they may say that you tried to rape them.
If you combine those three attitudes together, you may be 95% sure you are handling with a scammer criminal girl.
If the above facts apply you may:
– Just leave
Make sure she does not know where you are staying
– Call police
telling them that she is scamming you (maybe she carries some drugs or sleeping pills with her).
– Get back your stuff
If she already stole some of your money and you want it back, there is no better way to just take it yourself, cause police will not help, see where she puts it and get back on it.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU HAVE BEEN SCAMMED, THREATENED OR ROBBED IN RIGA:
Making reports to the police does not help, since more than ten years there are daily reports to the police and the criminal bars are still working, in the same place, with the same people.
The thing that may be more useful to do is to bring this issue to national (which are corrupted as well), international mass media, internet and make public awareness about it, you can eventually give the police stations a rating on internet and also mention your report with some reviews (which works better than police reports):
You can read even comments of people who has ‘worked’ in the ‘pubs’ (as stated by them) , those persons don’t even fear to write that. This is sign of a completely authorized scam from the institutions.
(reviews from http://www.inyourpocket.com/latvia/riga/nightlife/pubs/Krusovice-Sporta-bars_10774v)
THE DANGER OF IGNORING AND IGNORANCE
If you just google the words “Riga scam” you will get hundreds and hundreds of experiences about people got robbed, with the same criminal scheme but always different techniques.
The most sad thing is that most of people that gets robbed are not doing any report at all because they feel ashamed of public opinion which may think that they were with prostitutes or went to a strip club even if is not so. Or they may not feel safe with the police.
Many locals reply to those horror stories with words: “stupid westerners; idiot tourists; people looking to get robbed; if you are idiot you will always have those problems; those tourists were looking for troubles;you deserve this treatment if you are looking for girls; etc…” – As if being friendly and talking to a girl is already a reason why you should be condemned as sex tourist or prostitute seeker.
I really wish to the people that writes such disrespectful comments to go to go on vacation to get robbed, agressed and spoiled up completely, like this they would understand the sensation.
If you don’t believe all this, just go to have a walk in Kalku Iela wait to get approached by a girl, or get in one of those bars and ask for a beer, but be sure to be fit in your body and have many big friends coming to rescue you.
I would correct the title I gave to Riga: ‘the title of Capital Of Scam 2014’, maybe instead of “2014” I would say: “anno post soviet Union”.
Tattoos, sauna, coffee, smoking, alcohol, many trees around you and stone under your feet instead of soil.
Stereotypes or real characteristics of Finland?
It’s hard to draw a line between facts and personal mental representations, but one of the facts is that the Finnish nose is really peculiar, you can recognize it directly, the central part, between the holes, is a bit large at the bottom part. Really funny and sweet.
One of the things I learned, not in Finland, but in the Navy is how to sit on a wc, now that I travel is quite useful.
To stay in topic of wc, I can say that toilets in Finland are amazing. The shower bidet is just divine, I suggest you to get to know it.
RELATIONSHIPS IN FINLAND:
Finnish girls have a really particular way of walking, completely straight on their spine, they don’t move the head at all and they just point forward with their eyes, it looks almost like a march.
Having contacts with finnish women I discover that loving and caring too much for a woman in Finland is equal to lose her, good to know.
Because in Finland women behave like man, I start to behave like a woman, now I see what means to reject someone interested in you and you to love accompanied by interest…
I did learn something from women in Finland, for example how to recognize mushrooms and how to down from stairs without light, I tried it several times and is curious and interesting. But I travel to find a reason why to stop traveling, for the same reason I did one night stands.
To give a bottom line in a more martial ‘artistic’ way: “As a samurai prepares himself life long for death, I prepare myself for you to leave me”
Ah, you would think, why do you just write about girls?
Don’t worry, ‘par condicio”, I write about Finnish man as well, just continue reading…
THE FINNISH FOREST:
Like fighters in the aikido do (to stay in theme of martial art), I use external power and energies to get my own benefit with no use of my internal power. Like in yin-yang, I don’t lose my yang by using other’s yin.
This is for sure useful while sleeping in the forest….
The forest is one of the most comfortable place to sleep, there is nothing as magnificent as opening your eyes and seeing the green leaves on the trees, hearing birds and other animals peacefully living their life.
A domestic cat between the trees of the forest, he looked like a fish trying to walk, not even able to make few meters without hurting himself, how sad.
CYCLING AND (RE)CYCLING
Sometimes life is really paradoxical, in Finland, one of the richest country, I learn one of the thing done mostly by (non-economically)rich people: “dumpster diving”.
But actually the day there will be no food in the trash, or even better, no trash at all, there will be no poor neither.
During the Finnish winter I set down a new polar record, cycling at -18 for three hours in total, in one day!
While cycling daily at -25 for about one hour.
As reward for my nordics efforts I also met Joulupukki, the real Santa, which lives in Lapland and nowhere else. I have to say that he was quite shy. To be shy is just a way of damaging yourself and get others dominate you.
This is something I think, which applies not just to Joulupukki’s, but to Finnish men as well, which I find quite shy. While the women are not shy at all.
We often have more fears by thinking than by acting, when you think too much about actions you alienate yourself from the reality becoming frustrated and fearful.
What makes me less shy is also riding a bicycle, it makes me understand how to live and how to love:
If I ride knowing and thinking that my destination is close to me and I should arrive in short Time, I will be anxious, hurrying up and ruining the trip.
If I just ride without the thought of My destination, I enjoy My time.
The same for loving and living.
HOW TO…….. WITH A CONDOM:
How to find an address in a rainy day in Finland with a smart phone and a condom,
Home addresses in Finland are not like in other countries, one house number may be the same for one, two, three, even more than ten buildings!
Then there are letters to identify buildings: a, b, c, d…¢, §, Z!
Then eventually there are more numbers coming after the letter … 1….2…3…5…8…1018586.
House numbers, letters, numbers…. And locals mostly don’t know where an address is if you ask.
I am in a shop, outside is raining and I really need to use my phone to find the address of my host.
I don’t have a map, I need my smart phone but is raining heavily and I have no way to protect my phone, I put a condom on my phone, people is looking weird to me…
They don’t understand the utility of my act. But it works!
THEATER & CULTURE
There are societies where public social services are good, other countries have just local people that help each other, the worst place to be is where none of the two things is to find.
Traveling I just realize that the only way to get to know a country or a culture is to go there, nobody can explain you the feeling and the experience of visiting a place, no matter how extensive they talk or write about it.
One thing that I hate are airports or airplanes, they make you move so fast that you don’t realize where you are, they all look the same.
The Capital cities are often the least representative towns of the culture and traditions of a country. But still I spend much time in capitals, cause I am lazy and in big towns I find much more services…
ah, I almost forgot to mention: if Finland may be not the country of rabbits, at least Helsinki is!
In Helsinki, I have also met a really skillful artist, Aino Kurki: