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It would be interesting to know the expectations of every reader before, during, and after reading this post.

Love starts when the feelings end.

GREEKS WORDS FOR LOVE

Ah the Greeks! They nailed it making eight words for love:

Agape: Universal Love. Humans to humans or humans to God.
Ludus: Flirtatious Love
Eros: Romantic Love. Greek god of love and fertility
Mania: Obsessive Love
Pragma: Committed Love
Philia: Friendly Love
Storge: Familial Love
Philautia: Self-Love

Maybe we should take inspiration from the Hellenic people. By using different words for love one does not get confused when someone says: “I love you”.
Because the love for a friend, a family member, or a washing machine, is indeed much different than the emotion you feel towards your romantic partner.

CAN PAIN BE A METER FOR LOVE?

Is it possible that if it hurts, it’s love?
Some people say that if it does not hurt, it is not love. Personally, I am not sure that there is a linear parallel between pain and love. If partners respect each other, and are considerate, there could be painless love relationships, even when they end.
Unfortunately, sometimes it does feel that love is more pain than happiness.

MY DEFINITIONS OF LOVE

Love is when, after years, you still feel affection, some passion, care, romance, and wish to be with that person.

Love is like God.
It may make you feel good if you know how to relate to it.
It may destroy you if something goes wrong.
It is something that we can’t explain.
Or it may just not exist.

Love is when you don’t abandon your loved one just because you had a crush on someone else.

MY FRIENDS´ DEFINITIONS

“It’s just a survival instinct. “
“A composite word for many different things”
“Love doesn’t exist” – Sorry I am so cynical! – Fio

“Love is knowing the worst side of your partner and still love them” – Ervin.

“A crazy demon that possesses you”,
“A swinging pendulum” – Paolo Leonardelli

AI – CHAT-GPT DEFINITION

“Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that can be challenging to define precisely. It is often described as a deep affection, attachment, or strong positive feeling towards someone or something. Love can involve feelings of care, compassion, attraction, and a desire for emotional intimacy and connection. It can manifest in various forms, such as romantic love, familial love, platonic love, or even love for oneself or for humanity. Love is a deeply personal and subjective experience, and its meaning can vary from person to person. It encompasses a range of emotions, actions, and experiences that contribute to deep bonds and a sense of fulfillment in relationships.”

Love is when you read again your love letters of years ago and still feel similar emotions as in the past.
Cyclorbit P

LOVE IN MUSIC, MY FIRST “LOVE”

Did you ever ask yourself why so many songs are about love?
The answer is easy, of course!
When I was a kid, I remember listening to the disco song: “What is Love” by Haddaway.
I could not speak English properly then, but it was the time of my first loves.
There was a French girl called Florence, whom I had a crush on.
We were on our summer vacation time, I just saw her on the beach, from the back, and I already liked her.
For years, I was writing love words about her in my diary.
After three years, I finally managed to try my chances with her. It was at the end of summer, we would both soon leave. She would go back to France and me to my permanent home in Italy.
I proposed to her to play table football. I dared to tell her that if I would win, I would kiss her.
She was damn good at table soccer! Or maybe I was just terrible, or stressed because of the prize.
I am losing the game when suddenly, at the very end, several balls get in her goal.
I win!
She kisses me, giving me the first kiss of my life. The first French kiss by s French girl.
And she tells me in Italian, with her charming French accent: “I wanted to lose”.
It was the last time we saw each other.

Love is like a yo-yo.
Goes up and down, and it’s always hanging on a wire.

LOVE AND SEX

Sometimes, I feel like saying: Make sex, no love.
Sex can cheer you up, releasing positive compounds in your body.
You will not be depressed for months, or years, if you end a sexual relationship.
While after a few months of love, or something that seems love to you, one may feel the pain for years. Especially if the relationship was with a selfish, immature, or unstable person.

Love is like giving something that you don’t have, to someone that does not want it.
Jacques Lacan

LOVING WHO HURTS US

Before you can grow up, you must fall in love three times.

Once you must fall in love with your best friend, ruining your friendship forever. This will teach you who your true friends are, and the fine line between friendship and more.
Once, you must fall in love with someone you believe to be perfect. You will learn that no one is perfect and that you should never be treated as any less than you deserve.
And once, you must fall in love with someone who is exactly like you. This will teach you about who you are, and who you want to be.

And when you’re through with all that, you learn that the people who care about you the most are the ones that you hurt, and the ones that hurt you are the ones that you needed the most.
But most of all, you learn that love is only a concept and is not something that can be defined, it is different to each person who experiences it. And you will learn to respect each and every person on this earth, knowing that everyone only want to be loved.

By Bipin Bhandari on Quora.
https://www.quora.com/Can-someone-fall-in-love-more-than-once-or-is-it-the-first-time-and-the-only-time-they-really-fell-in-love/answer/Bipin-Bhandari

BURKA OR POLYAMORY?

Is love only related to two individuals?

Is jealousy and possessiveness important in love?

Did maybe the Islamic religion find the solution to the problem by having strict social norms, hijabs, burkas, etc.?

Or is it possibly more up to us to decide to control ourselves and not make others suffer?

Interestingly, even conservative Islamic religions do contemplate polyamory. But just one type of it.

Facebook group about polyamory
https://www.facebook.com/groups/atouchofflavor

If I had understood the meaning of the words of this song, when I listened to it many years ago, my life would have been different now.

ABANDONING A SHIP FOR MY BELOVED

When I was twenty, I had a relationship that I still consider the biggest, passionate love of my life. And that was exactly the issue: too much passion.

We could not function properly because we were talking all night on the phone and were so much into each other that our daily life was heavily affected.

There was one more issue, I needed more participation in her life.

Above that, after two years together, I just finished my nautical studies, and I was due to be sealing on ships for months.

I could not cope with being her and sailing on ships at the same time, I thought that it would be less painful if we would break up.

One night, in the harbor of Naples, she came really late to see me, I was annoyed because she did that several times. In a moment of anger, I tell her that I don’t love her anymore and that I have another woman.
It was a huge lie, I still loved her with all of my heart, but I knew that it was the only way to break up with her.

Later on, I discovered also to be poly, which was also a problem because she would see that as a lack of love.

After more than a decade, I still love her and I think that I never had as much passion and deep loving conversations as I did with her.

Relationships are not destroyed by the third person, they are destroyed by the person who entertains the third person.

BREAK UP AND DEATH

Whenever you break up with someone, and you don’t talk face to face, you don’t feel the detachment in person. It is a bit like having lost a dear person to death and not having seen their body.

Love is like life. If there would be no pain, it would not be enjoyable to appreciate the good times. The concern comes when there is more pain than happiness.
Cyclorbit P.

When someone suddenly dies, it is shocking for the people who loved them. But for the person who died, it’s actually more painful to know in advance when they will die.

For a break-up is the same. The one who is dumping the other will suffer more if they wait, while the one who still loves them will suffer more if it’s a sudden loss.

LOVE AND GHOSTS

When someone suddenly stops to love without loyalty or commitment, they kill their partners’ soul, and they will only see their ghost from that moment.